Wedding
Duties
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Who does what?
Before the wedding there are dozens of details to be worked on and
finalised (it will probably seem like thousands at the time!). The
details of the wedding used to be the province of the bride's
family, with only symbolic consultation with the groom's family,
but nowadays couples plan most of the details together. Naturally
it is important to consult at every stage with the other
participants, such as the bride's parents, the groom's parents,
the bridesmaids, the minister, etc, to check that everyone is
happy with the wedding plans, but it is a good start to married
life if the bride and groom can sort out such major events with
plenty of discussion, cross-checking and arrangement making. Some
of the arrangements will naturally be easier for the bride or for
the groom to sort out; others may be easier in consultation with,
say, the bride's mother but here is a list of things that the
bride and groom should be sorting out together as the wedding
approaches.
Brides family
Press announcements
Invitations
Orders of service
Any other stationery (eg place cards,thank you notes)
Photographs (these may or may not include video tape recordings
etc
The bride's dress and accessories
The bridesmaids' and other attendants' clothes and accessories
(although these days many bridesmaids will offer to buy their own)
Flowers for the church
Flowers for the reception
Hen party ,
Transport for the bride's family to the church, and for the
bride's parents to the reception
Hire costs for the reception
Catering costs for the reception
The cake
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Groom
Engagement ring
Wedding ring for the bride (the bride traditionally pays for the
groom's ring if he has one)
Legal costs (licences, registrar, etc)
Church costs (minister's fee. choir organist, bell ringers, etc)
Flowers for the bride
Flowers for the attendants
Buttonholes for the men in the wedding party
Corsages for the two mothers
Presents for the best man and attendants
Stag party
Transport for himself and the best man to the church, and for
himself and the bride to the reception
The honeymoon
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Best Man
The best man generally pays for his
own clothes for the wedding if they
have to he made or hired.
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Bride and Groom together
The type of wedding you want traditional, formal, casual, on a
theme, registry office, church
The date and timing of the wedding and the reception
Newspaper announcements
The style of the reception - cocktails, formal meal, buffet, etc
Who is going to do the catering professionals, yourselves, family
friends
The venue of the reception
The style of service you will have
Music for the service, reception and evening party if you have one
Attendants - how many who, what they will wear
Flowers for church, reception, bouquets, buttonholes
Cake style and size
Guest list
Present list
Wedding stationery invitations, orders of service, place names,
etc
Photography, video, taping of the service and reception
Rings what kind you want, whether you are having one or two
Transport for everyone to the church and reception
Presents for attendants
Stag and Bride Parties
Honeymoon
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